Decision Made

My little girls name is.... Lillee Ann
KC was getting way too confused with us calling the new puppy Gracee. When we were telling Gracee no KC was feeling like we were scolding him. So after talking to Neal and some of our family I decided that was should call her Lillee instead. I changed it a couple hours ago and I have already caught myself calling her Gracee. After planing for my baby girl "Gracee" and calling her Gracee for a day its going to be difficult for me to call her Lillee. However, to save my KC from being confused it will be worth the effort.
On another note I weighed Lillee today. I tried to put her on my scale but she didn't even register. I decided to use my weight watchers food scale. I put a bowl on the scale and then I put Lillee in the bowl. She weighs 2lbs 12oz. Her parents weighed 4lbs and 7lbs so I'm thinking that she will be between 5 and 6 lbs when she is full grown.
Lillee cries when she is left alone. Oh and she cries loudly! It is sad to say but watching her howl and cry makes me smile. She is such a drama queen! Plus its nice to know that she already attached :-) However, the crying does get annoying. Esp. when we are trying to sleep. Hopefully she will get over the separation anxiety soon.

It's a GIRL

GRACEE MAY or LILLEE ANN

I've been trying to get Gracee/Lillee since Christmas. I went back and forth on being patient and then not so patient. I had finally settled on being patient. I was in a good place, then Neal went to pet store and took video of a Maltese. Luckily for Neal it was a boy and I want a girl. I have been outnumbered for way too long. Ever since Neal went to the pet store I have become very determined to find my little girl. I searched the Internet, newspapers and various pet stores all with no luck. Yesterday, Neal returned to the same pet store to find that they had a female Maltese for sale.
We went to the pet store today so I could check her out. We left the pet store with our little girl. The boys, JJ & KC, don't know what to think of her. JJ seems to be handling our new family member better than KC, but he has been through this before. It will take some time but I know that they will learn to love her as much as they love each other.
If you are wondering why the two names I'll explain. I have had the name Gracee picked out for quite some time. However, I realized the Gracee and KC sound a lot alike and I don't want to confuse them. I'm going to see how they do. If they can't tell the difference then we will call her Lillee, but for now her name is Gracee. Gracee is a pure breed Maltese. She was born on March 25, 2009. Gracee will be 10 weeks old on Wednesday.
It is going to be a challenge training such a young dog. She can't make it out the dog door yet. Just today she peed on the floor 4 times. I'm grateful for tile flooring. Hopefully she will learn to use the pee pads, soon, until she can use the dog door.
I'm so happy to have my baby girl. I'll make sure to add more pictures as she grows.

Gracee in her kennel

The boys interested in who's in the kennel

KC checks out our new arrival

JJ says "Hi" to his new sister

Me & my baby girl Neal & Gracee have already bonded

Taking a nap on my lap (I put my hands next to her so you could see how small she is)

Truths

I was taking some time to clean up all the files in "My Documents". Some of the files I was unsure what was in them. A lot of the files were deleted. I did find some letters and updates that I have sent. They were fun to read and look back on. I did come across a file called infertility. I wasn't sure what was in the file so I opened it to see. It contained a copy of an email one of my best friends sent me many years ago. Over the years I have read this message many different times and different times in my life and the message always touches my heart. Certain parts stand out in my mind more depending on where my head is at the time.
I wanted to share it with you. I don't know who wrote the list, but it was from someone who has gone through one of the worst experiences ever. My friend said she found it on a RESOLVE web site. If you know anyone who has struggled with infertility I think you will find this helpful. (Infertility affects 15 percent of the population, or about one of every six or seven couples.)

Truths About Infertility

-That it is probably the most devastating thing that we will ever experience
-That it ruins our self-esteem
-That it affects our relationships with everyone that we know
-That it interferes with our day to day functioning
-That the medications make us moody and emotional and cause us to gain weight
-That it makes us feel violated
-That it is very expensive to go through treatment and to adopt
-That it is emotionally draining
-That it changes our lives forever-we will never again be the same people that we once were
-That people experiencing infertility have depression rates that are equal to those experiencing cancer
-That it is a life-altering experience
-That it makes us question everything we ever believed in
-These are medical issues, not lifestyle issues. Talk to us as you would someone who has heart disease, diabetes, or any other medical condition Be a sounding board for the tests, results, side effects, etc of the treatments NEVER suggest relaxing or having sex more often-
Realize that a pregnancy that results from infertility is not the same as others Infertile couples may have a hard time easing up and enjoying their pregnancy After being used to receiving disappointment, pregnancy is not yet the end of the road
-Even though your intentions are good, you will probably say something that is offensive to us because this is such a sensitive subject
-No matter how close the friendship, it will be hard to completely connect with fertile friends
-There is always something there that others cannot understand, even when you do try so hard to empathize
-Infertility affects all aspects of your life and the pain is inescapable You are confronted with it at work, at the mall, walking down your street, on television, with family and friends when they don't even know it Kids are life's common denominator When you can't participate in these conversations (and they are everywhere) you just don't fit in anywhere.
-Baby showers are one of the most painful events that we can be asked to attend
-In this day and age people need to be more cognitive that some people may want kids and are having trouble and some people may not want children for certain reasons. It is not up to family/friends to provide a running commentary on the issue. You never know the situation of the person you are talking to (some people are not open about their infertility treatments) so it's better to err on the side of caution and not make a lot of pregnancy comments/questions
-To remember that if I am acting mad at times, I am not mad at you, I am mad at my life
-That I will talk about things that are happening with my treatment when I am ready and your probing and questions do not make me any readier to discuss "what I am going to do next".
-It's hard to know what I will be doing next. If there were a script, it would be easier to predict the future, but everyone is different.
-That unless you have done what I've done and been through what I have been through, you can't possibly know how I feel and can't possibly know what to tell me to do about the pain and frustration that infertility brings
-That I will be okay again, but I don't know when So when I seem okay, just accept that as a good thing for the moment, and don't press me, because I don't know how long the feeling okay again thing will last.
-Going through infertility is like being on a roller coaster-there are constant ups and downs and surprising drops We never know what is around the next curve and work very hard to just stay fastened in our seats
-Infertility is a journey that will take us to many places we never thought of or knew about and it will shape us into new people (some of our newness will be good and some will not be) and change how we look at and deal with everything in our lives Once you've been on this journey you are never the same again
-That the sadness that accompanies infertility sometimes comes unexpectedly and at the most awkward moments I wish I could plan my depression! But unfortunately, it just doesn't work out like that Of course, these moments come when I'm surrounded by other people-- watching TV with a group and you see a commercial with a couple holding a baby-- totally unrelated to parenting, pregnancy or whatever, but it's just the image that is devastating driving in a car and a song comes on the radio that talks about babies, parents: "Isn't She Lovely" by Stevie Wonder, "She's Having My Baby" .
-For me (as I'm sure it is for a lot of people experiencing infertility) the greatest fear is that I will never have a child Each failed treatment cycle, especially as your treatment gets more high-tech, makes this fear even larger If we could just somehow know that we would have a child, a lot of the stress would be alleviated
-I wish family and friends could understand why holidays, baby showers, and just hearing about or being around other people's children and pregnant woman, can be so hard sometimes
-That medical treatments are very painful, emotionally and physically That infertility is a degrading experience-we often feel like failures, like our bodies our not our own, like everyone in the world has touched us, and most especially that the most private part of our lives (our physical relationship with our spouse) has been completely invaded
-That infertility treatment is very clinical and definitely is not "fun" That treatment cycles move very slowly, so try to be patient. That we are at the mercy of the medical world
-That grief is a VERY important part of the healing process for us- please let us be sad when we need to be we have to mourn our losses.

Neal & I tried for about 6 years to become pregnant. We participated in some of those invasive treatments that were talked about. I have at one point or another felt all of these emotions. It was about a year ago that I decided that it was time to accept that Neal & I are not going to be parents (not in this life). I went to counseling for help to grieve. It is through the grace of the Lord that I have been able to accept what the Lord has in mind for me. It is not an easy thing to say "Thy will be done" and truly mean it especially when it involves your biggest dream ever. I still have my moment of weakness. In fact I had one last week. However, I have learned that if I turn to the Lord and hand my pain over to Him He is always willing to take it and carry me through.

PS I hope you found the article (for lack of a better word) helpful.